To Gift or Not to Gift? A Philosopher's Dilemma

Give your loved ones a priceless gift: attention.

The holidays are supposed to be about reconnecting with family, generosity, and celebrating Santa’s birthday. Or Jesus’s. For others, it’s supposed to be about the rededication of, and to, a sacred temple. But it’s not. Instead, it’s a dreidel-spinning, holly-wreathed distraction from the meaninglessness or loneliness of everyday existence. It’s a dreaded chore, filled with stressful shopping, hidden disappointment, and feigned joy. It is the season of vacuous gifts. It is supposed to be a season of amazement, and it is: people who are supposed to know you best turn out to be completely clueless. Or worse – you discover that the gift is the ultimate weapon.

Zombie-like feeding of the consumerist monster is the standard objection to holiday gift-giving. Yet there’s another, darker side to generosity: when it’s used as means of exercising power over another. We are expected to be appreciative of gifts, regardless of whether they’re wanted or thoughtful. A gif

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Steve Smith 1 11 November 2021

This is my first time i visit here. I found so many interesting stuff in your blog especially its discussion

Janne Moriggan 26 July 2021

I love giving and receiving gifts! It seems to me that this is very pleasant. When I do something like this, I am overwhelmed with a sense of excitement. I like to open loot boxes - because I feel something like that. It is especially pleasant when you win a prize that you have long wanted to receive.

Torri Lloyd 17 May 2021

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