Why do we lie?

Shattering shared reality

Lying shields us from our vulnerability to our own unconscious desires, but also corrodes a shared reality. The liar wields the power to create their own reality free of uncertainty, writes Josh Cohen

Why do we lie? In one key respect, the psychoanalytic response to this venerable (and currently very urgent) question is broadly in line with other psychologies: we lie to evade the many and various unpleasant consequences of telling the truth. Lying to others can preserve us from the embarrassment of having values, tastes or desires that offend societal norms; lying to ourselves helps protect our favourable self-image. Beyond these defensive functions, lying can confer advantages over public and personal rivals and adversaries, in sex or business, art or politics.

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Vyacheslav Dianov 28 September 2020

Incorrect reasoning based on the absence of a reasonable worldview and an objective understanding of the human soul.

Gary Behelfer 28 September 2020

I am not sure the term ambivalence describes the ego vs. id argument. Ambivalence implies an "I don't care" attitude rather than the unconscious struggle that is taking place. I see the interplay as contentious.
I was elated with the phrase that "the truth doesn't need us." As a science guy, the search for the truth and finding some small parcel of the truth in one's experiments is uplifting and joyful. Since it doesn't happen often, it is a precious commodity.

Trump is one that sees an alternate reality and invents facts to fit the his vision (He may in fact be from an alternate universe). As long as we don't drink the bleach, we have a chance.